You could call it fate.

It’s disappointing to know you cannot always get what you want. And it’s equally disappointing to know you cannot make things happen exactly according to your plan. I’ve resigned to the fact that no matter how hard you try trying, if it’s not meant to be then it probably will never be. Call it fate or whatever. But that’s just the way it is. There are some things that are beyond our control. We can’t do anything about it but to accept and learn how to face the music.

And so I ask. Is accepting all we really have to do? If this is so then what happens with the ‘never say die’ attitude that have been instilled into our minds ever since we were kids? We can't give up just like that.

I don’t know but I’m slowly succumbing to the “if it’s meant to be then it will surely happen” mantra. I refuse to see it as being apathetic or indifferent. If it’s not meant to be, why force it right? This mentality actually gives me a sense of freedom. I am able to free myself from the heavy burden of trying to ‘make things happen’ all the time. I don’t feel the sense of urgency anymore to do this or do that just because it’s supposed to bring me happiness, success, love or whatever.

However there are times when this mantra of mine fails me. Most often than not it leaves me wondering if I should have gone the extra mile and exerted some effort instead of leaving it entirely to just fate alone. I’ve discovered on many instances that due to lack of action on my part, there are a lot of missed opportunities. There are a lot of what-could-have-been scenarios which I could have acted upon but didn’t. This always leaves me wondering if I should have indeed done something about it. But like they say, it takes two to boogie (tango isn’t as fun…) in every situation. So I guess I should blame the other person or party involved for not doing anything as well. Or perhaps there’s no one to blame; maybe they had the same mantra going on for them too.